Trust Analogy in Love Relationships
We carry around trust cups.
A cup of trust with money
A cup of trust for safety
A cup of trust for care of your property
A cup of trust for honesty
Etc etc
When we first meet someone we offer to each other these cups for all the different elements of trust in your relationship
But these cups are empty. You must fill there cups, they will fill yours
The offer of a empty cup is not rude nor should it be taken with offence..
You are giving them the chance to start to fill the cup
Some people want to be given a full cup and may complain
But beware, for either they are a con or infantile in there understanding of trust
It is not your responsibility to fill the cup you offer them, it is their responsibility.. so therefore it makes no sense for them to expect it to be pre-filled
It is not mandatory just because you give them a chance to fill a certain trust cup:
that they must fill it nor
that they must also offer you the chance to fill their trust cup
Depending on how full the cup is will correlate to how much trust you have in them in that particular trust topic
Their actions will fill the cup or spill the cup.. but as long as the cup is there, they have the opportunity to fill it again
In a relationship, it is not mandatory that all the cups be filled completely..
What is mandatory is that both parties respect the level to which the cup has been filled and operate with eachother accordingly
Ie, if you have not filled the cup of the other person, do not expect them to trust you blindly
Other the other hand,
If the other person is unable to fill one of the cups, understand and respect it, do not demand or force them to fill it.
If you both can respect and accept the number of each others cups you have been able to fill and to what level, your relationship will be smooth..
If you treat trust like glass, you will have a long line of broken relationships.
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